Life Lessons by Sallie Stewart

Life Lesson's I have learned: 
1.   When you are knocked to the ground. First, heal.
2.   Get boundaries.
3.   Get up.
4.   Re-enforce your boundaries.
5.   Get tools.
6.   Clean house and repeat #4
7.   Keep going.
8.   Reach higher than your comfort zone.
9.   Listen to your gut, no matter WHAT ANYONE says, never go against your gut.
10. Be grateful, live a life of Gratitude.
11. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF!
12. Love without prejudice.
13. Have support. Not to hold your hand, but to Coach you, encourage and inspire you to grow!!!

Not Afraid to Fly...

A Come Back in Life

"Esco proved to me today.......HE PROVED to me. It is ALL possible! Another inredible powerful ride! He is focused! He is Ready!.......I am focused and I am ready! It is the best thing to run at life that is ahead of you! It absolutely is a comeback.......A COME BACK IN LIFE.........IN LIFE! ♥ He has come far, I have come far!. It feels good to grow through adversity. I want to grow past this, not shrink. And, so we are growing. This is about playing out the hand you are dealt......the best you can! You play out the hand life deals you, but you play it! ♥"

~Sallie

A Life Saved...

Everyone wants to know what the turning point was. It was simple, a coach in an arena said, "Sallie......YOU COUNT AND YOU MATTER! then he point to Esco and said, " And He counts, He absolutely matters!" ......the day my life was saved again. But this time in a different way.

Be Present

Someone asked me a question awhile go and I had to really think about it.

"What was the biggest break through moment with Osinski?" 

Well, there wasn't one.  The clouds did not part and the sky did not open up or anything. Riding takes work, period. It takes practice and repetition. It took Mike Osinski coaching me and through his coaching he helped me to be "present" and I became "present" and lived in the moment. On that horse, in that arena, with this coach... I was present. I think we can do just about anything, if we learn to stay present.

Sallie Stewart

Gratitude

Mike my trainer and Mike my husband and Esco have all three taught me something. Gratitude, on a deep sense. Be grateful and thankful for all things in life. And I truly mean for all things. For the first time, I look up at the evening sky and really look at it. And I am grateful for this sky and the stars. Grateful every night I have a bed to sleep in, a couch to sit on...etc

Gratitude, such a simple word. Many, I think have forgotten what it means. I am a simple person. I enjoy experiences in life. Not shopping or things. Riding has significantly improved. Esco and I have really been working hard. And we will continue to work hard, first show this March!

We have been working on our Dressage Tests. This takes me a bit longer to learn new material, but I have done so. Osinski is a Judge, it is so nice to ride a test for him and be able to hear what we did well, and what we need to work on. Hard work, and achievement, makes my soul feel alive and free.
We indeed are grateful, so grateful! May sound real simple, but riding it gives me purpose, freedom and goals to achieve!

~ Sallie Stewart

Ride with your soul!

I wanted to sell Esco this past spring. I was tired of wondering every single time I got on his back, if it would be my last ride ever. Then after a simple hack on the trail this past Spring of 2011 things started to click again. I remembered why I rode and why I loved horses. And, more importantly why I rode him. I ride for the "feel", for the joy, the freedom we feel. You have all felt that . This hack...seems so simple, but for three years, it has been something I was not able to do. I was too fearful. If I did not have my trainer, next to me.......I was scared to death. After each and every ride, to tell you the truth, my happiest moment, was when it was over. And I was still alive! To go on a hack by myself, with Esco.....was a huge moment. After the hack on the trail, I went back to the arena...I rode just like I did on the hack, with my soul. I could canter the horse any and everywhere in that huge arena. For three years.......when My trainer would say, "And Canter!".....the blood would just drain from my body. A terrible feeling for a person who was once so free. I rode on edge every single minute. Every single stride, I rode on edge. Oh I did all the mental exercises, visualizing things we do.  But honest to goodness, just ride with your soul, and your mind will relax, fear will leave and your position and body will fall into place. It has not been a matter of learning, but rather a matter of "feeling" this and living this again. I know of any other way to capture the "feel" than to just keep going until it appears. Then you can own it and yours.

Funny where you can find answers. On the back of a horse, on a trail.
Uncurl your toes.....and ride with your soul!
Move with your horse and with life! Embrace it, smile, breathe.Ride with your soul. More importantly LIVE with your soul!!

Sallie Stewart

...and he said, "Be the leader this horse needs and deserves you to be!"~ Mike Osinski‏

…and he said, “Be the leader this horse needs and deserves you to be!"~Mike Osinski
These are the words I heard this summer, while frail, timid me was in a lesson on a horse, that I truly was unsure of to ride. I loved him, but had given up on him, as well as myself. Osinski, from the second I mounted the horse, started in with instruction. " Shorten the reins, take a hold of him. You hold his mouth Sallie. Just like you held your sons hands when they were little. You will feel him try to squirm out of your hands. You say NO, you hold your momma's hand." As Esco squirmed and pulled the reins Mike would say, " NO, you do not let him break the contact with your hand, you tell him by using your hands, No, you hang on to my hand and let me guide you." Then Mike went into ," Good he is on the bit and connected, now rising trot. And Sallie YOU keep the connection, you do NOT let him give up the contact. After that was successful. Mike then instructed us to canter. While cantering I of course lost connection, horse looked terrible, I looked out of sorts. Mike came on to say, " Bring him back down to trot, get organized again, and canter again." We were now cantering. Mike came on the head set loud and clear with, " Don't you quit!, Don't you dare quit riding!!! You keep him connected on the bit, do not let that little boy let go of your hand. You move those legs of yours and keep him moving in the Canter. I did not see your legs move. If you do not move those legs, there is no need for me to even waste my breathe. You move those legs in the Canter, or I am going to leave the arena " I will tell you, my legs did move. Riding a horse I had lost confidence on, and ...and knowing all I had to do to keep the trainer there was move my legs, you bet my legs moved. A tiny bit, and it took effort, to move them. It also, took me having some faith in me. I trust my trainer, and when he does ask, I do try . Mike was pleased. Then he came on the head set as the horse was begining to slow down, " Sallie...You do not quit riding. BE the LEADER, this horse NEEDS and Deserves you to be!" Those words, are million dollar words. It changed my riding that very day. It also, began to change my life. My life needed a leader. And that leader had to be me. It is us as human beings, who lead our lives by choices we make. Good and bad. At the end of the day, we lead our lives. Mike Osinski reminded me of this, all on the back of a horse.

Sallie Stewart

And he said, "Ride THIS Stride"

In early 2009, things that I already struggled with became nearly impossible. I live next to a military base. And for lord only knows what reason, I started having an overwhelming fear of being shot in the head. The fear and scenes became so horrific it drove me to a PhD. One that specialized in head trauma. I began doing things such as sleeping on the floor in case a bullet came flying into the house. This was not a reasonable fear. I began not wanting to drive anywhere as I was surrounded by Ft Lewis. It was explained to me what I was experiencing was something called PTSD(post traumatic stress disorder). I learned some skills and driving got better, for a brief time.Then it would all come back again. More intense. 

In 2010, these flashes of being shot in the head, transferred to riding. I would get on Esco and see horrific scenes. They at first where short and then grew to long horrifying scenes. By 2011, it was nearly paralyzing. These scenes would flash, I could not control them. At times, I was not sure if I was not going to die right then and there from a heart attack. When Mike Osinski took us on full time this year, I believe he probably had an idea this was happening. Though I had never told anyone other than a shrink. One particular lesson after I had mentioned that Esco was so hard to me for ride, I mean this is the horse that fell on me, with no warning. He was hard for me to ride as he felt "Tippy." Each ride I would wonder if this would be the ride where he would fall again. The entire ride, I would think, " Don't fall , don't fall, don't fall, please don't fall." He felt not like a huge broad wide warmblood. 

So during this one lesson Mike, said via the head set, " The horses who can do FEI, they do feel tippy. They are athletic, and they can bend, and are supple. When I watch his feet Sallie, each one steps perfect on the ground. You do not need to worry about him falling. I want you to notice his stride. i want you to feel how he feels under you. He does not take up all the space between your leg. He is an athlete. I want you to feel it, feel this stride, this  stride......and this stride. The last 5 strides do not matter, they are gone. The next 10 strides do not matter for they are not here. You ride THIS stride!......this stride and this stride. If a bird flew in and pecked him on the end of the nose, it does not matter, you keep him going in this stride." The arena is 100x200 ft. Mike called out THIS stride for an entire lap. Then proceeded to say it several more times throughout the hour lesson. This lesson did so much for me. When I would drive and see a flash, I would actually shake my head and say, " You ride THIS STRIDE!" When I would have any of these flashes, I would just call out, "this stride you ride this stride, the next 10 do not matter."  This is one of 50 things that has been conquered while riding a horse with instruction by Mike Osinski.

Sallie Stewart

Their Journey

In 2008 Sallie Stewart suffered a serious Traumatic Brain Injury(TBI) while having her young Stallion Escogido XXV- The Chosen, fall on her. Due to this serious injury, Sallie had to re-learn how to do everything, even the simplest things we all take for granted. Walking, talking, eating, dressing herself and driving a car are just a few. Her husband and her young son taught her how to walk, talk and read again.

Mike Osinski, FEI rider and United States Equestrian Federation “S” Judge (the highest ranking judge's card one can hold in the USA), took Sally and Escogido on as students in Mid Summer 2008. Mike Osinski coached her through many significant physical and cognitive challenges. After three long years of hard work and dedication Sallie and Escogido are now ready to begin their Show career in Dressage, with their coach Mike Osinski, leading them every step of the way...

This would not be possible without the help of your contribution. No amount is too little. Let's come together and support these two who never quit. Not even when the cards were stacked against them.

Talent is God given. 

Be humble.

Fame is man-given. 

Be grateful. 

Conceit is self-given. 

Be careful.

~John Wooden