Not Afraid to Fly...

A Come Back in Life

"Esco proved to me today.......HE PROVED to me. It is ALL possible! Another inredible powerful ride! He is focused! He is Ready!.......I am focused and I am ready! It is the best thing to run at life that is ahead of you! It absolutely is a comeback.......A COME BACK IN LIFE.........IN LIFE! ♥ He has come far, I have come far!. It feels good to grow through adversity. I want to grow past this, not shrink. And, so we are growing. This is about playing out the hand you are dealt......the best you can! You play out the hand life deals you, but you play it! ♥"

~Sallie

I Dreamed Him Into My Life...

I will never forget the day, I first met him. The way he confidently walked up to the fence and submissively looked him my eyes. " So you are the one? ". Hardest thing was to know I had found my horse, and not take him home with me. Every night, I laid my head down on my pillow, I looked at his pic on my screen saver and said , " Esco come to me." It started in late Jan. , by April he was here. Mike, says, I dreamed him into my life. Others say, he flew into my life as if on some mission. Me? I have no answer's. I can only say, the horse moved my soul since day one. My life has never been the same since the day he arrived. The people, I have met over Escogido.......have been nothing more than beautiful. This horse has been a gift, on so many levels. SO many levels.

Sallie Stewart

Gratitude

Mike my trainer and Mike my husband and Esco have all three taught me something. Gratitude, on a deep sense. Be grateful and thankful for all things in life. And I truly mean for all things. For the first time, I look up at the evening sky and really look at it. And I am grateful for this sky and the stars. Grateful every night I have a bed to sleep in, a couch to sit on...etc

Gratitude, such a simple word. Many, I think have forgotten what it means. I am a simple person. I enjoy experiences in life. Not shopping or things. Riding has significantly improved. Esco and I have really been working hard. And we will continue to work hard, first show this March!

We have been working on our Dressage Tests. This takes me a bit longer to learn new material, but I have done so. Osinski is a Judge, it is so nice to ride a test for him and be able to hear what we did well, and what we need to work on. Hard work, and achievement, makes my soul feel alive and free.
We indeed are grateful, so grateful! May sound real simple, but riding it gives me purpose, freedom and goals to achieve!

~ Sallie Stewart

Sallie and Esco Prints available on Zazzle!

If you enjoyed the "Sallie and Esco" painting by Gretchen Schroeder, it is now available as a print for purchase in the new Sallie and Esco Zazzle store! There are also a few other products for your consideration. All proceeds from the Zazzle store sales will go directly to Sallie and Esco in support of their recovery journey.

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." Winston Churchill

Ride with your soul!

I wanted to sell Esco this past spring. I was tired of wondering every single time I got on his back, if it would be my last ride ever. Then after a simple hack on the trail this past Spring of 2011 things started to click again. I remembered why I rode and why I loved horses. And, more importantly why I rode him. I ride for the "feel", for the joy, the freedom we feel. You have all felt that . This hack...seems so simple, but for three years, it has been something I was not able to do. I was too fearful. If I did not have my trainer, next to me.......I was scared to death. After each and every ride, to tell you the truth, my happiest moment, was when it was over. And I was still alive! To go on a hack by myself, with Esco.....was a huge moment. After the hack on the trail, I went back to the arena...I rode just like I did on the hack, with my soul. I could canter the horse any and everywhere in that huge arena. For three years.......when My trainer would say, "And Canter!".....the blood would just drain from my body. A terrible feeling for a person who was once so free. I rode on edge every single minute. Every single stride, I rode on edge. Oh I did all the mental exercises, visualizing things we do.  But honest to goodness, just ride with your soul, and your mind will relax, fear will leave and your position and body will fall into place. It has not been a matter of learning, but rather a matter of "feeling" this and living this again. I know of any other way to capture the "feel" than to just keep going until it appears. Then you can own it and yours.

Funny where you can find answers. On the back of a horse, on a trail.
Uncurl your toes.....and ride with your soul!
Move with your horse and with life! Embrace it, smile, breathe.Ride with your soul. More importantly LIVE with your soul!!

Sallie Stewart

“Though we are different yet we are the same” ~ Sallie Stewart

Sallie and Esco,  © 2011 by Gretchen Schroeder

We as people, have all faced adversity at sometime along our path in life.And, adversity, does change us.  There are some things in which one never gets over, it merely becomes apart of us, and we learn to carry on.  Really, what all look for is freedom. Freedom to dance on the stage of life as who we are. To be accepted, to be loved unconditionally, for who we are. We all want freedom, to be ourselves.  I can not think of one person who wants to be shoved in a box and told who they are. Nope, we as people desire freedom to be who we are in our heart of hearts.

Escogido XXV showed me this. He showed me how to be free. He loved me unconditionally. He loved me through gut wrenching fear. He loved me through memory loss. He loved me through , “ Who am I?”. He loved me through tremendous self doubt and self worth.  And it was because of my love for him, that I sought answers, sought help, sought education and sought new tools. And in the end, I learned self acceptance. I learned, it was ok to love myself, even with my new short comings.  We as people in general are quite similar.  Though we are different yet we are the same.

Sallie Stewart

...and he said, "Be the leader this horse needs and deserves you to be!"~ Mike Osinski‏

…and he said, “Be the leader this horse needs and deserves you to be!"~Mike Osinski
These are the words I heard this summer, while frail, timid me was in a lesson on a horse, that I truly was unsure of to ride. I loved him, but had given up on him, as well as myself. Osinski, from the second I mounted the horse, started in with instruction. " Shorten the reins, take a hold of him. You hold his mouth Sallie. Just like you held your sons hands when they were little. You will feel him try to squirm out of your hands. You say NO, you hold your momma's hand." As Esco squirmed and pulled the reins Mike would say, " NO, you do not let him break the contact with your hand, you tell him by using your hands, No, you hang on to my hand and let me guide you." Then Mike went into ," Good he is on the bit and connected, now rising trot. And Sallie YOU keep the connection, you do NOT let him give up the contact. After that was successful. Mike then instructed us to canter. While cantering I of course lost connection, horse looked terrible, I looked out of sorts. Mike came on to say, " Bring him back down to trot, get organized again, and canter again." We were now cantering. Mike came on the head set loud and clear with, " Don't you quit!, Don't you dare quit riding!!! You keep him connected on the bit, do not let that little boy let go of your hand. You move those legs of yours and keep him moving in the Canter. I did not see your legs move. If you do not move those legs, there is no need for me to even waste my breathe. You move those legs in the Canter, or I am going to leave the arena " I will tell you, my legs did move. Riding a horse I had lost confidence on, and ...and knowing all I had to do to keep the trainer there was move my legs, you bet my legs moved. A tiny bit, and it took effort, to move them. It also, took me having some faith in me. I trust my trainer, and when he does ask, I do try . Mike was pleased. Then he came on the head set as the horse was begining to slow down, " Sallie...You do not quit riding. BE the LEADER, this horse NEEDS and Deserves you to be!" Those words, are million dollar words. It changed my riding that very day. It also, began to change my life. My life needed a leader. And that leader had to be me. It is us as human beings, who lead our lives by choices we make. Good and bad. At the end of the day, we lead our lives. Mike Osinski reminded me of this, all on the back of a horse.

Sallie Stewart

...and he said, " As much as they say you have lost, I am going to prove to you that YOU are smarter than this HORSE."

Last year in 2010 I received something called a "neuropsychology test" It was very frustrating for me. It is a test which would take a non head injured person approx 1.5 hrs to complete. For me, it took three weeks. The results for me were devastating. I went from a 3 digit IQ to an "impaired" double digit IQ.  I also had deficits in focus and immediate memory recall. I asked the doctor. to tell me what I needed to work on and I would do it. He explained to me, what had not come back in the first 16-18 mos after that injury was not going to come back. I sought a second opinion. Basically what was explained to me, if I had it mastered before, I still know it, ie. Real Estate Market. But when it comes to learning something new, it takes me 3 times as long to learn as a "normal" person. I was really devastated.

The second doctor had exactly the same opinion. Learning before that injury was a very big part of my life. I loved it and I learned with ease, was very disciplined and could push myself hard. I could master things with ease. Now, when learning something "new" I get frustrated quite easily. For example, before the accident, if you rattled off your phone number, I could immediately dial the number. This is not the case anymore. I also had a partial photographic memory before the accident........not the case anymore. 

This has been a real struggle for me. I am quite aggressive about it actually. If I am questioned as to if I am sure......I will blast someone. I am very clear and very honest. If I say I know it, it is because I do. If I say I do not know it, it is because I do not, and it would take me a VERY long time to learn the information. This is an issue for me, especially when I get those who want to "test" me, or "play the how broke are you game." It does not end well I can raise my hand and admit, I have absolutely no patience for those who are out to play games, and sadly because I look totally normal, some want to play these games.( Neither of the Mikes do this, nor would they think of doing it, they are kind. And they also treat me like a human being.)

I had shared the results of this test with my instructor, little bits of it over time. It was quite devastating to me. Hard to talk about. Humbling. Made me feel less than. I felt like less than a human being. So it took time to share this with Mike, as I was so embarrassed and ashamed. And, I was afraid in away that he would perhaps drop me as a student.

Esco, is extremely smart. I have always said that. Before Mike took him on " Full Time",  Esco was the horse that if you were "on it", he would still try to challenge you and outsmart you. Esco and Mike had some conversations. It was as if Esco would say, " No, I am the big boy, here take this." Mike would then correct him. Esco was a handful. The smart ones are. Getting the news I had received about my IQ after several month, I no longer felt smarter than the horse.

To top it off I had just gone through a jaw issue, where I could not eat solid foods for 67 days. And, when I finally could chew solid foods again.......OMG, I had forgotten how to swallow solid foods. I only wish I was kidding, but quite frankly you can not make this stuff up. It was explained to me that swallowing was cognitive, so off to a speech pathologist to re-learn how to swallow .......yet again. ( I had issues with this right after the accident, though I barely remember it.) So, in my head. I was now stupid, the sole reason we had to file bankruptcy....accidents are expensive FYI., a total and complete failure, and now I could not ride the horse, who had done so much to rehab me, as I just knew he was smarter than me.

In a lesson, as I had JUST mounted Esco, Mike came on the headset and said, "as much as they say you have lost, I am going to prove to you that you are smarter than this horse Sallie. He is just a horse. A smart one, but he is just a horse." The lesson went well. Walk, trot, canter and leg yields. And you know what? The confidence, to swallow? I regained the confidence to swallow my food, as it was proven to me, I was in fact smarter than that horse. I regained self worth as a human being. The heart of what was conquered on the back of that horse, in that arena, with that coach. This is how a life was saved.

Sallie Stewart

Their Journey

In 2008 Sallie Stewart suffered a serious Traumatic Brain Injury(TBI) while having her young Stallion Escogido XXV- The Chosen, fall on her. Due to this serious injury, Sallie had to re-learn how to do everything, even the simplest things we all take for granted. Walking, talking, eating, dressing herself and driving a car are just a few. Her husband and her young son taught her how to walk, talk and read again.

Mike Osinski, FEI rider and United States Equestrian Federation “S” Judge (the highest ranking judge's card one can hold in the USA), took Sally and Escogido on as students in Mid Summer 2008. Mike Osinski coached her through many significant physical and cognitive challenges. After three long years of hard work and dedication Sallie and Escogido are now ready to begin their Show career in Dressage, with their coach Mike Osinski, leading them every step of the way...

This would not be possible without the help of your contribution. No amount is too little. Let's come together and support these two who never quit. Not even when the cards were stacked against them.

Talent is God given. 

Be humble.

Fame is man-given. 

Be grateful. 

Conceit is self-given. 

Be careful.

~John Wooden